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ONE SHOULD ALWAYS TRY TO MAKE SOMETHING NEGATIVE INTO SOMETHING POSITIVE. This story turn out better than expected and may have also influenced the relationship after their divorce,
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Woman fights for custody of son after getting pregnant while being surrogate
An American woman had to fight for custody of her biological son when she became pregnant with twins while being a surrogate for a Chinese couple.
Jessica Allen of
Perris, California, was doing In Vitro Fertalization (IVF) for the Lius
(named for the sake of the article) in April 2016, nearly a year after
giving birth to her second son with Wardell Jasper, 34.
And after engaging in intercourse with Jasper - claiming the use of a
condom - Allen returned to the hospital to discover she was pregnant
with twins, reports Daily Mail.
"Not once during the pregnancy did any of the medical staff provided by
the agency say that the babies were in separate sacs," she said to the
New York Post.
"As far as we were concerned, the transferred embryo had split in two and the twins were identical."
But what they would all soon find out was that the at-the-time mother
of two was naturally pregnant with her own child along with the Lius's
through an extremely rare medical incident called superfetation.
Allen had first decided to become a surrogate in fall of 2015, six months after the birth of son, Jarius.
"'This is your chance to give a family the blessing of a child,' Wardell told me," added Allen, who is white.
"Besides, I wanted to stay at home with my sons rather than return to
my job as a senior caregiver, and we decided we'd put the money toward
buying a house."
Working with
San Diego-based agency Omega Family Global, she was paired with the Lius
and followed along with the scheduled routine until she found out she
was expecting double at the six-weeks scan.
She said: "I was a bit scared, but I heard the Lius were thrilled to be having twins.
"My $30,000 payment, including expenses - which I received in
installments by check each month - was increased by $5,000 for the
second child.'
Allen gave
birth to both boys at 38 weeks on December 12, 2016. She recalled that
Mrs Liu, who was in the delivery room, was worried about the decision to
have a C-section birth.
And
while Allen tried to be comforting to the woman, she was upset to not be
given the chance to see the babies after giving birth to them.
"I didn't even get a look at the babies when they were pulled out because it was done behind an opaque screen," added Allen.
"They were taken from the operating room before I had a chance to see them."
Communication was sketchy but on January 10, days before moving into
their new home, Allen received a WeChat message and picture from Mrs Liu
that said "'They are not the same, right?' followed by, 'Have you
thought about why they are different?'"
Both babies were still in California at the time, so a DNA test was
conducted where it was discovered that one of the boys - named Max - was
actually biracial and belonged to Allen and Jasper.
Allen was told, by the agency, that the Lius wanted nothing to do with
Max - soliciting $18,000 (NZD $26,148) to $22,000 (NZD $31,959) in
compensation.
To their
additional horror, Allen said that the agency was prepared to give her
son to another family and/or allow the Lius to put Max up for adoption
since they were his legal parents.
"We want our son," asserted Allen who was furious that the caseworker
at Omega requested another $7,000 (NZD $10,168) for the difficulties she
endured in taking care of the baby.
After spending $3,000 (NZD $4,358) in legal fees, the couple were able
to get the money that they "owed" to the Chinese couple reduced to zero.
According to the New York Post, Omega's CEO, Dr. Kyle Kramer said that the company would pay the expenses for the Lius.
But because of nondisclosure agreements and federal patient privacy
laws, the firm can't get into more detail about the claims for Allen
they are disputing.
Their
company lawyer did add, however, that the company "takes great pride in
the care, attention and support that is given to all surrogates."
On February 5, Allen was finally reunited with her baby - now named
Malachi - when she met an Omega caseworker in a Menifee, California,
Starbucks parking lot.
Allen and Jasper got married in April and enjoy the new life with their three boys.
She added: "I don't regret becoming a surrogate mom because that would mean regretting my son.
"I just hope other women considering surrogacy can learn from my story.
And that a greater good will come out of this nightmare."
While only legal in a few states, consumer surrogacy saw nearly a 100
percent increase from 2004 to 2008 of 738 to 1400 babies, according to
recent reports from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention and
the Society for Assisted Reproductive Technology.
But, since not every surrogate birth is reported, it is unknown how many babies are actually born using the method.
