Sunday, October 29, 2017

Do some people handle break-ups better? A psychologist explains -- NZ Herald

Another article about how a POSITIVE approaches can help you develop a POSITIVE Divorce Recovery!  




 You will find that you need to drop all negative thoughts before you can look and see the  POSITIVE and  UPSIDES for your next chapters of life!


ONE SHOULD ALWAYS TRY TO MAKE SOMETHING NEGATIVE INTO SOMETHING POSITIVE. This story turn out better than expected and may have also influenced the relationship after their divorce,



My book, mostly about the many UPSIDES of divorce, can help you to find the positive sides too that are available in and after divorce.

Search "upside of divorce" at Amazon Books and see my blogs (all of them, all 345) and see all the reviews.  Thanks for a look!


Positive changes you can make will build your self esteem, confidence and the want to do even more positives for yourself and your family.

Take a look at my book below if you are interested. My book is all about the upsides.


Brian Daniel



Divorce is Very Negative but You'll See ALL UPSIDES with Brian's Book, Yes,There Is An Upside of Divorce, It Can Be Your Second Chance at Life!

My book "Upside of Divorce" (short title) is available with a discount on my tibodad@yahoo.com email and just $13 covers the 9 inch X 6 inch plus Postage,Shipping and Handling --You can save over $6 !!

You can search it on Amazon and buy it there too.

AND, A KINDLE EDITION OF MY BOOK IS NOW AVAILABLE, for just $4.99!




Here is the article,  Brian.

 

 

Woman fights for custody of son after getting pregnant while being surrogate

 

   An American woman had to fight for custody of her biological son when she became pregnant with twins while being a surrogate for a Chinese couple.


Jessica Allen of Perris, California, was doing In Vitro Fertalization (IVF) for the Lius (named for the sake of the article) in April 2016, nearly a year after giving birth to her second son with Wardell Jasper, 34.

And after engaging in intercourse with Jasper - claiming the use of a condom - Allen returned to the hospital to discover she was pregnant with twins, reports Daily Mail.
"Not once during the pregnancy did any of the medical staff provided by the agency say that the babies were in separate sacs," she said to the New York Post.


"As far as we were concerned, the transferred embryo had split in two and the twins were identical."
But what they would all soon find out was that the at-the-time mother of two was naturally pregnant with her own child along with the Lius's through an extremely rare medical incident called superfetation.

Allen had first decided to become a surrogate in fall of 2015, six months after the birth of son, Jarius.
"'This is your chance to give a family the blessing of a child,' Wardell told me," added Allen, who is white.

"Besides, I wanted to stay at home with my sons rather than return to my job as a senior caregiver, and we decided we'd put the money toward buying a house."
Working with San Diego-based agency Omega Family Global, she was paired with the Lius and followed along with the scheduled routine until she found out she was expecting double at the six-weeks scan.

She said: "I was a bit scared, but I heard the Lius were thrilled to be having twins.
"My $30,000 payment, including expenses - which I received in installments by check each month - was increased by $5,000 for the second child.'

Allen gave birth to both boys at 38 weeks on December 12, 2016. She recalled that Mrs Liu, who was in the delivery room, was worried about the decision to have a C-section birth.

And while Allen tried to be comforting to the woman, she was upset to not be given the chance to see the babies after giving birth to them.
"I didn't even get a look at the babies when they were pulled out because it was done behind an opaque screen," added Allen.

"They were taken from the operating room before I had a chance to see them."
Communication was sketchy but on January 10, days before moving into their new home, Allen received a WeChat message and picture from Mrs Liu that said "'They are not the same, right?' followed by, 'Have you thought about why they are different?'"

Both babies were still in California at the time, so a DNA test was conducted where it was discovered that one of the boys - named Max - was actually biracial and belonged to Allen and Jasper.
Allen was told, by the agency, that the Lius wanted nothing to do with Max - soliciting $18,000 (NZD $26,148) to $22,000 (NZD $31,959) in compensation.

To their additional horror, Allen said that the agency was prepared to give her son to another family and/or allow the Lius to put Max up for adoption since they were his legal parents.
"We want our son," asserted Allen who was furious that the caseworker at Omega requested another $7,000 (NZD $10,168) for the difficulties she endured in taking care of the baby.
After spending $3,000 (NZD $4,358) in legal fees, the couple were able to get the money that they "owed" to the Chinese couple reduced to zero.

According to the New York Post, Omega's CEO, Dr. Kyle Kramer said that the company would pay the expenses for the Lius.
But because of nondisclosure agreements and federal patient privacy laws, the firm can't get into more detail about the claims for Allen they are disputing.

Their company lawyer did add, however, that the company "takes great pride in the care, attention and support that is given to all surrogates."
On February 5, Allen was finally reunited with her baby - now named Malachi - when she met an Omega caseworker in a Menifee, California, Starbucks parking lot.

Allen and Jasper got married in April and enjoy the new life with their three boys.
She added: "I don't regret becoming a surrogate mom because that would mean regretting my son.
"I just hope other women considering surrogacy can learn from my story. And that a greater good will come out of this nightmare."

While only legal in a few states, consumer surrogacy saw nearly a 100 percent increase from 2004 to 2008 of 738 to 1400 babies, according to recent reports from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention and the Society for Assisted Reproductive Technology.

But, since not every surrogate birth is reported, it is unknown how many babies are actually born using the method.







 

Sunday, October 8, 2017

The gift of a second chance( after divorce) through music -- Eastern Eye

Another article about how a POSITIVE approaches can help you develop a POSITIVE Divorce Recovery!  

This Positive is all about MUSIC !
For my own battle with divorce, music about divorce helped me  a lot!

The article helped a country singer working out his divorce with his single to his fans.


 You will find that you need to drop all negative thoughts before you can look and see the  POSITIVE and  UPSIDES for your next chapters of life!


ONE SHOULD ALWAYS TRY TO MAKE SOMETHING NEGATIVE INTO SOMETHING POSITIVE. This story turn out better than expected and may have also influenced the relationship after their divorce,



My book, mostly about the many UPSIDES of divorce, can help you to find the positive sides too that are available in and after divorce.

Search "upside of divorce" at Amazon Books and see my blogs (all of them, all 345) and see all the reviews.  Thanks for a look!


Positive changes you can make will build your self esteem, confidence and the want to do even more positives for yourself and your family.

Take a look at my book below if you are interested. My book is all about the upsides.


Brian Daniel



Divorce is Very Negative but You'll See ALL UPSIDES with Brian's Book, Yes,There Is An Upside of Divorce, It Can Be Your Second Chance at Life!

My book "Upside of Divorce" (short title) is available with a discount on my tibodad@yahoo.com email and just $13 covers the 9 inch X 6 inch plus Postage,Shipping and Handling --You can save over $6 !!

You can search it on Amazon and buy it there too.

AND, A KINDLE EDITION OF MY BOOK IS NOW AVAILABLE, for just $4.99!




Here is the article,  Brian.





What led you towards your latest single  Beparwaiyan 
My friends always encouraged me to sing and when I went through my divorce I used music as part of my healing process. 


Tell us about the song.  
The song is about my feelings and how I travelled through this crazy journey of feeling suffocated during such a painful time. 


What made you want to talk about something so personal as a divorce?  
I wanted to share my very relatable experience with others including my nearest and dearest. I wish I had met certain individuals sooner rather than later, who helped and guided me through such tough times. I want people to know that there will always be light, at the other end of the tunnel and hopefully achieved that with this song. 


Who do you hope connects with the song?  
I’m hoping to connect with people who have a pulse for music. I want people to feel my track, feel the lyrics and music. 




How has the song helped you?  
The whole journey has been massive for me in more ways than one. Beparwaiyan has helped me find my confidence again. 


What is the plan going ahead? 
The plan going ahead is for people to hopefully appreciate my work and give me the confidence to continue making further tracks.


What makes for a good song? 
I’m a soulful person.  A good song is one that makes you feel something, whether that is the emotion in the voice, rhythm in the sound or something else. In that regard a good song can be from any language, country or genre. If it moves you, that’s a good song. 





What inspires you?  
My parents are the biggest inspiration for me. They have always supported me and I can never thank them enough. 


Why should we pick up your latest song?  
I want you to come on a journey with me and hopefully make you feel the emotions at the heart of this song. I really want support for my music, so I am able to make more. 


Why do you love music? 
Music brought me back to life again and gave me a second chance. Without God and music I wouldn’t be here