Another article about how a POSITIVE approaches can help you develop a POSITIVE Divorce Recovery!
You will find that you need to drop all negative thoughts before you can look and see the POSITIVE and UPSIDES for your next chapters of life!
ONE SHOULD ALWAYS TRY TO MAKE SOMETHING NEGATIVE INTO SOMETHING POSITIVE. This story turn out better than expected and may have also influenced the relationship after their divorce,
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My parents went through a bitter divorce five years ago and have had little to no contact since then. During the process of the divorce, their communication was through my siblings and me, which took a toll on us. However, despite the turmoil of the divorce, we are still close to both of them.
I’m
a medical student who will be graduating next year. I recently brought
up the idea of having a graduation party, but my father says he refuses
to come if Mom or anyone from her side of the family will be there. This
led to a discussion about future weddings and events that will most
likely happen soon.
My siblings and I are in our
mid- to late-20s, and Dad insists that he won’t attend any future events
that Mom will attend, even if it’s his own child’s wedding. It was
extremely difficult to hear.
My
siblings and I can’t imagine him boycotting something because he
doesn’t want to be in the presence of our mom. We think he’s
overreacting and needs to get over the past. Must we get over the fact
that he doesn’t want to be around our mother and allow him to skip these
important days?
Child Of Divorce in Michigan
Dear Child: Your
father may be angry, but he is also being selfish and childish. By
telling you what he did, he’s attempting to manipulate you into choosing
between him and your mother.
By asking me whether
you should “allow” him to skip these important milestones, you appear to
be under the impression that you can somehow control your father. You
CANNOT control the actions of another adult. You can, however, control
the way you react to his behavior.
You
and your siblings should not let yourselves to be manipulated. “Remind”
your dad that if he follows through with his threat, he’ll be missed,
and the only person he’ll be hurting is himself.
My
best friend from college recently had a baby. I had planned a trip to
visit her, and during my visit, she said, we would visit the local pool.
A week before I was set to leave, she notified me that I would have to
wear a T-shirt over my bathing suit at all times because my “fit body”
would make her neighbors who have “mom bodies” uncomfortable, and she
doesn’t want to upset them.
I was shocked and
offended for women of all sizes. I responded that I would never be
uncomfortable with anyone’s mom body or ask them to cover up, and I
won’t wear a T-shirt. My bathing suit is not skimpy and would not be
considered revealing by any standards. She responded that if I have a
problem with it, I should just not come. Help!
Shocked And Offended
Dear Shocked And Offended: Be
neither shocked nor offended. I agree that no one should have to cover
their bodies. I suspect your best friend from college is not happy with
HER post-baby body right now and wants to avoid comparisons. Tell her
you understand, and try to reschedule a visit during ski season.
