Sunday, July 31, 2016

10 Positive Lessons Children Learn From Divorce ---- DivorcedMoms.com



Another article about how a POSITIVE approaches can help you develop a POSITIVE Divorce Recovery!  No Matter WHO You Are!!




My book, mostly about the many UPSIDES of divorce, can help you to find the positive sides too that are available in and after divorce.

Positive changes you can make will build your self esteem, confidence and the want to do even more positives for yourself and your family.

Take a look at my book below if you are interested. My book is all about the upsides.


Brian Daniel





My book "Upside of Divorce" (short title) is available with a discount on my Self-help website above or you can search it on Amazon and buy it there too.

AND, A KINDLE EDITION OF MY BOOK IS NOW AVAILABLE, for just $4.99!





Here is the article.





We constantly read about the negative impact of divorce on children. We, as parents know that our children need special concern and attention while we navigate the divorce process and rebuild our lives. And, we attempt to give them everything they are owed.
We rarely hear about the positive impacts of divorce or the ways divorce can change our children for the better. Change them in ways that will, contrary to belief be beneficial as they grow. In spite of what you read children of divorce learn some very positive life lessons that are not always negative ones.

10 Positive Lessons Children Can Learn From Divorce:

1. Children learn that two people who thought they would spend their lives together and raise their children together can make the decision that what is best for their family is to not be together anymore. They learn that when two people fight all the time, despite the harrowing and scary decision to divorce, it is for the betterment of their children and themselves to not stay together.
They learn that marriage is hard and sometimes it doesn’t work and instead of living together unhappy, adults can make the difficult decision to live separately and be happier, either with someone else or alone. They get to live without the stress of living with parents who are either fighting a lot, not interacting much with each other, or are in a strained relationship. This then leads to children who are more relaxed and happier.

2. When two parents can co-parent well, their children learn how, despite their parents deciding to not stay together, they can still both focus on being the best parents they can be to their children. They learn that some people can get along better and parent better when they live apart.

3. You are modeling for your children that you deserve to be in a happy, loving relationship which is a lesson that will serve them well. You are also modeling for them how to get through a very stressful situation. They learn how to grow in the face of hardship. They learn how to find their own power and voice. They also learn that people have to live with the consequences of their actions.

4. Children learn the magnitude of the idea of marriage. They learn the importance of waiting when they are older before making a commitment to another person; The importance of taking a relationship slowly before committing so they make sure they really get to know the other person.

5. Children learn the importance of having close relationships with their siblings. Who knows better about what they are going through than their sibling who is going through the same thing at the same time?

6. Children get more quality time with each parent and get to experience mentally healthier parents (if the parents get themselves help). More often than not, children of divorce experience more professional help- at least second hand from their parents getting help. They learn it is okay to ask for help and to get it when it is needed; that it is not a sign of weakness, rather, it is a sign of strength to get professional help when going through a difficult situation.

7. Children learn to be more empathetic towards others as it is more relevant to their lives when they see one of their friends having difficulty.

8. Children learn to become more self-sufficient. They learn a person is able to be on their own and take care of themselves without having to rely on another person if that person is someone with whom they are not happy.

9. Children learn how to communicate. Many children of divorce live in two different households. They need to learn ways to communicate with each parent in order to ensure their needs are met and that both parents know what is happening in their lives.

10. Children learn time management and organizational skills and also how to be more resilient and adaptable to change. Going back and forth between two households is one of the biggest complaints I hear from children of divorce. Because of this, these children learn quickly how to track their things, as well as their time.

Overall, it is best for kids to grow up in a household with two happy parents who are able to work together in positive ways to make their marriage last. For many people, however, this is not possible and their children would be better off living with two happy parents in two separate houses instead of two unhappy parents living under one roof.

Saturday, July 30, 2016

Divorce and Your Self-Esteem ---- SELF PERCEPTION AND SELF DISCOVERY

I cannot pass up another blog about being POSITIVE in your divorce and your recovery!!


Another article about how a POSITIVE approaches can help you develop a POSITIVE Divorce Recovery!  No Matter WHO You Are!!




My book, mostly about the many UPSIDES of divorce, can help you to find the positive sides too that are available in and after divorce.

Positive changes you can make will build your self esteem, confidence and the want to do even more positives for yourself and your family.

Take a look at my book below if you are interested. My book is all about the upsides.


Brian Daniel





My book "Upside of Divorce" (short title) is available with a discount on my Self-help website above or you can search it on Amazon and buy it there too.

AND, A KINDLE EDITION OF MY BOOK IS NOW AVAILABLE, for just $4.99!





Here is the article.





When the divorce process begins to move along, you may find that your self-esteem is completely gone. You need to learn how to rebuild your self-esteem so that you can move on successfully after the divorce. Moving on successfully means that you are okay not being married to them anymore. It may take months or even a year to get there, but it is a lot of work for some. Some people will take it really hard and the shock of the divorce can be devastating. You need to learn on how to focus on the positive things and learn how to appreciate what you got. You will feel a lot better about your life when you learn how to think positively.


You should never beat yourself down. It’s not your fault, it’s not anyone’s fault, you may have just had a bad marriage, it’s so hard to tell what a marriage will be like until a while after “I do”. Don’t think about the past, but focus on the future. You will want to replace any thoughts where you doubt yourself by stating something that you like about yourself and keep telling yourself that your okay and everything will be okay. You should learn to use positive words to describe yourself like smart, beautiful, ambitious, and so on. You image of yourself will effect your life a lot.


To think positively you need to think things to encourage yourself. You should use self-esteem building activities like talking to yourself in a mirror. Tell your reflection how you feel about yourself in a positive way. You should make encouraging statements and you will actually begin to feel better by doing such things. The first step to rebuilding your esteem after divorce is to let go. You need to place the past in the past and begin to think about ways that you and improve the way you feel about yourself.


The best way to let go of the past is to get dressed up and go to your favorite restaurant and eat alone. If you can go there by yourself and have dinner, then you know that you will be okay. You know that you can be okay with being alone. However, if you feel extremely uncomfortable, as yourself why and then tell yourself some encouraging statements so that you can feel better about the situation and accept being alone or single is just as fine. No one will stare at you, no one will notice you and at the end of the meal you will be much stronger.


You should also let go of any goal of being perfect. This will allow you to adjust and you will lighten up about the entire situation. No one is perfect, but making yourself try to be will only make things worst. This is when you should tell yourself that you’re not perfect, but your perfectly fine being who you are.


If you must you may need to make changes you need to be able to stand on your own. You should decide what you need to do to find yourself again and then reach out. Your level of success and confidence will rise. You should also learn that you can not isolate yourself. You need to be around people and your closest buds will not let your self-esteem dissolve. They will help you through the divorce as well as many other things. Your friends and family should be the key to finding yourself and love after the divorce. You will find the courage to move on by finding comfort in your friends.

Wednesday, July 27, 2016

WHAT TOPICS DO YOU HELP WITH?

After 300 blogs, I am thinking it may be easier to have you to ask for help that you need.

Any topic is OK with me.

Email  me at      tibodad@yahoo.com

Brian Daniel




My book, mostly about the many UPSIDES of divorce, can help you to find the positive sides too that are available in and after divorce.

Positive changes you can make will build your self esteem, confidence and the want to do even more positives for yourself and your family.

Take a look at my book below if you are interested. My book is all about the upsides.





My book "Upside of Divorce" (short title) is available with a discount on my Self-help website above or you can search it on Amazon and buy it there too.

AND, A KINDLE EDITION OF MY BOOK IS NOW AVAILABLE, for just $4.99!

Thanks for a Look!!

Brian Daniel




My Products and Services are still available through the email address     tibodad@yahoo.com
and  @BrianDaniel12

I can still help others with my products and services along with coaching too.

Amazon retains my book sales and Kindle versions and my author's page and blog as well.

And I retain 100+ books to autograph and use as direct sales.

It was my pleasure to use my website and help others with divorce recovery, saving and investing,     R and D Tax Credits, Unsuitable Investments and so on.

My Blogs retain most of my advertising now and I still will use Twitter.

THANKS VERY MUCH  to ALL OF YOU!

Brian


Wednesday, July 20, 2016

By The Way, My Website , "Self-Help-Products-and-Services.com" is no longer available

It was a great domain for the last eight years or so, but all good things come to an end.

My Products and Services are still available through the email address     tibodad@yahoo.com
and  @BrianDaniel12

I can still help others with my products and services along with coaching too.

Amazon retains my book sales and Kindle versions and my author's page and blog as well.

And I retain 100+ books to autograph and use as direct sales.

It was my pleasure to use my website and help others with divorce recovery, saving and investing,     R and D Tax Credits, Unsuitable Investments and so on.

My Blogs retain most of my advertising now and I still will use Twitter.

THANKS VERY MUCH  to ALL OF YOU!

Brian Daniel