More than resolutions: 7 signs you might need a life change --- Jackson

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Here is the article.

 

Seven signs for change

 

1. You are always thinking of what could be: If you constantly find yourself thinking how life could be better or about things you wish you could do but aren’t able to right now, this is a sign you need to make a life change. It’s one thing to think about things you would like to do; however, it’s something very different when you catch yourself obsessing about these things, becoming depressed because you can’t do these things right now, and it just totally consumes you. You need to sit down and have an honest discussion with yourself and figure out what changes you need to make to move closer to being able to do these things.

2. You are “the glass is half empty” person: If you always find yourself thinking the worst, expecting things to go wrong, not believing you are worthy of great things in life, then you need to make a change in your life. You can start by reading some self-help and personal development books on self-esteem and confidence. Try getting around more people who have an optimistic attitude about things. If that doesn’t work, consider counseling or seeking out help from a trained therapist or mental health professional.

3. Not living life in the present: Some people are stuck living life in the past, or are always trying to figure out the future. We all think about the past and future from time to time, but never spending any time in the present moment is unhealthy, and holds you back from growth, fulfillment and personal success. If something is bothering you from your past, make it a goal to bring closure to it this year. If you are worried about the future, realize that some things are out of your control and that making good choices and living in the present will help lead to a better future.

The holidays are a fun time to share gifts, visit with friends and family, take a break from work, and, hopefully, relax. The trouble is that they are over fairly quickly. And once those vacation days are over, people return to their regular routines, which now seem dull.  The biggest difficulty in getting back to the daily grind is seeing the rewards and joy in what we do every day. “Otherwise the contrast between ‘shiny holiday’ and ‘drab everyday life’ can be daunting if we think about it that way,” said Ashley Sanford, a Houston psychologist who specializes in trauma, stress, and depression. People underestimate how exhausting even happy holidays are and how much rest we need to recover, Sanford said. “The vacation hangover is real.” Don’t expect to be 100% productive on your first day back from vacation. Once people get some rest the weekend after the first week back, the fatigue eases up significantly, she added.

Be aware of the signs that you may be overworked or overstressed. These include uncharacteristically negative thoughts and feelings, as well as not finding time for or no longer looking forward to things you used to enjoy, according to Sanford. “Burnout is a serious issue and can lead to severe depression and even suicidal ideation if left unaddressed and untreated,” she said. Some of the physical symptoms include heart palpitations, gastrointestinal issues, and excessive weight loss or gain.  But you don’t have to experience any of these. With some effort and a few tricks you can make it through that stressful transition period at work right after the holidays and prevent it from dragging out.  24/7 Wall St. consulted three psychologists who shared their recommendations for getting over the post-holiday blues and regaining focus at work.

4. You are living for other people: One of the biggest indicators that it is time to make a change in your life is when you are living for other people and not yourself. This is more common than you think. Make it a goal this year to let go of the approval of other people. Ask yourself: what do I really want for my life? What will really make me happy? Follow your heart and don’t worry about other people. If they truly love you and care about you, they will support your goals and dreams.

5. Nothing feels genuine: Some people just kind of fell into their life path by accident and have never been able to escape. Although things might not be all that bad, life just doesn’t feel authentic and genuine. You know deep down what it is you want to be doing, and it’s time to sit down with yourself and figure out how you can move closer to doing these things.

6. Every little thing bothers you: We are all bothered by certain things from time to time, but does it ever feel like every little thing bothers you, especially things that shouldn’t? This could be as simple as needing to lighten up and find more joy in life, or more serious mental health conditions like depression. Start practicing mindfulness and trying to change your reactions. If this doesn’t help, seek help through a mental health professional.

7. You constantly feel anxious and depressed: Any symptoms of anxiety and depression should always be taken seriously, even if they seem minor. We all experience occasional anxiety and feel blue from time to time, but if it doesn’t go away, this could be a sign of depression or an anxiety disorder. Reach out to a mental health professional and get help.

“If they’re noticing any of these flags or signs, it may indicate a time to make a change in their personal or professional life,” Saranga said.