My Radio Show Inteview with Dawn Sinnott

My interview was about my own divorce experience and how what I went through may be helpful to others.

Dawn had asked what single word would describe my divorce and my answer was "Surprise!"

I was surprised as soon as I got back to my home, after my father's funeral in another state and some days there settling my Mom's financial matters.

I tried for a couple weeks to get us to counseling but we never got to try it. Her mind was made up.

So we hired an attorney to help us dissolve our marriage and near the end, I found out "our" attorney was just her's and not mine (she was supposed to tell me, but didn't--another Surprise!)
So, I had to check some legal/financial stuff with some other lawyers quickly.

We talked about how we would handle custody with the boys and I sided with my two sons' wishes.

We then discussed about the Serenity prayer and how it helps someone immersed in CHANGES!

And, we listed all the POSITIVE opportunities that this traumatic change can bring.

We then offered the specific positive sides of divorce that me, Dawn and others have found in divorce or separation.
Details are in the interview which lasted about 30 minutes.

See   Dawn at http://divorceasacatalyst.com/ and   http://mydivorcejournal.wordpress.com/

My interview with Dawn was aired on October 26th at 10am to 1030 am and should be available at the link below. Dawn's contacts are listed beow as well.

phone: (516) 825-0084


fax: (877) 208-5198

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/dawnsinnott

Brian Daniel

The Many, Many More Upsides of Divorce

My previous blog about how the family support expo was the upside of divorce to all those who would attend points to the many positive aspects of help that is available for those suffering in divorce.

The expo ad had several books to read about emotional, financial, relationship help and more, for those who want to read.

There were various personal coaches to help directly with an individual's difficulties and issues.

(I did not promote my book and nor offer personal coaching at this expo.)


But the main point here is that there are many, many ways to get help in divorce. Each of these can be an upside in your divorce.

There hundreds of divorce books, each dealing with an issue or two.

There are internet chat rooms, help centers, and discussion groups--hundreds perhaps?--to find your similar issues/help.

There are divorce professional Linked In groups, full of attorneys, mediators, financial analysts, coaches, etc.

There are of course, several dating services too.

All of these can help with the many different issues each one in divorce may have. One can  buy a few books, join some church /other support groups, hire a coach or two and perhaps check their credentials and experience on Linked In or though personal referrals from firends. Most people have or will use dating services at some point.

In my book, I tried to help others in divorce to deal with negative issues, depression, loss of self esteem, how to deal with all the lonely hours--issues that are very common in divorce. My own experiences  hope to find the common ground/issues for most readers.

My book goes on then, to the many, many more positive opportunities that divorce brings as well. These items are the bulk of my book and the REAL upside  of divorce--how others can find a happier and more enjoyable life after divorce.

I hope that all those suffering in divorce look into the many resources of help that are available.

Brian Daniel

Family Support Expo Offers the Upside to Divorce

The Family Support Expo Offers the Upside to Divorce


By admin .On this episode of The Smart Divorce with Deborah Moskovitch, our guest Stephen Rosenfield http://familysupportexpo.com and http://rosenfieldmediation.com is paying it forward. Stephen is using his work as a Mediator and making a difference – with his mediation practice and the launch of The Family Support Expo in Toronto, Canada on October 20/21, 2012.





Stephen Rosenfield

Whether it is a medical health issue, a mental health issue or a transitional issue, these considerations are often stigmatized within society. We have learned to hide our problems to avoid rejection and ridicule. But concealing our problems only makes them worse. Nobody is perfect, and everyone experiences challenges from time to time. You may not be struggling with one of these issues, but you definitely know someone who is.



I copied this from a Divorce Source Radio ad for this Expo. I liked the "Upside of Divorce" part of the title!
Unexpectedly, I had to look close to see anything obviously "positive" or that can be an upside of divorce.
Perhaps the the upside is only that 40% to 50% of divorced couples are just like you.

My divorce recovery book, "Upside of Divorce", is packed full of positives, opportunities and many, many upsides of divorce.

But, check the ad info below and see what you think!!

Brian Daniel



Family Support Expo Offers the Upside to Divorce

If you’re going through a separation or divorce, you are not alone. 40% – 50% (statistics vary depending on where you live) of couples are just like you. Separation and divorce could be the largest or second largest expense in your lifetime. Parents rarely do well if their children struggle, and children rarely do well if their parents struggle. There are many new considerations and circumstances and we appreciate that you need resolution on all fronts.



Topics in this program include:



• The benefits of The Family Support Expo – the exhibitors, speakers, giveaways and more.

• The $24,000 dilemma.

• Considerations to developing a parenting plan when your child has ADHD, special needs or mental health issues.

• How depression and mental health affects the family dynamic.

• Elder-care and divorce.

• Helping the world to be a better place.

• How your mediation impacts future generations.

• Going forward fairly in mediation.

The UPSIDE of Anger in Divorce?

My previous blog about the upside of fear in divorce made the point that fear can help one to do something about that fear.

Any move to action can be beneficial. Getting oneself up and moving to do that something is helpful.

In my divorce, anger was strong and present a lot of the time just after divorce. And I did begin to do many things to more fruitfully pass that time.

There was a movie too about the "Upside of Anger" and the upside was that moving on, dealing with the anger and getting past it can be a natural and good thing.

For me. there was more of the anger and less of the fear. The anger was more of a force to do different things, many things to keep busy in positive ways.

I think both fear and anger can be helpful in ther changes one has to make in and after divorce.

Brian Daniel

The UPSIDE of Fear?

I read another divorce blogger's article with this title above.

All partners in divorce have fears. They may be different ones, but fear itself is present at least a little in everyones' divorce.

The point of this topic is that fear can be debilitating. The fear may be about being alone, concerned about support and financial future, loss of friends and so forth.

In the end, the blogger's claim is that FEAR provides an eventual realization that the reasons for fear have to be dealt with. And, this is the UPSIDE.

The UPSIDE is the push the fear presents. Needing to make new friends, doing something to improve your financial condition, fighting lonely situations with getting up and doing something instead can all be upsides from fear.

I have in my book dealt similarly with the negative sides of divorce and the OPPORTUNITES that can help get one busy with their new life.

The UPSIDES for all of us who will face their fears and start doing something about those fears is the key element here.

Fear can be an UPSIDE.

Brian Daniel