Another article about how a POSITIVE approaches can help you develop a POSITIVE Divorce Recovery!
You
will find that you need to drop all negative thoughts before you can
look and see the POSITIVE and UPSIDES for your next chapters of life!
ONE
SHOULD ALWAYS TRY TO MAKE SOMETHING NEGATIVE INTO SOMETHING POSITIVE.
This story turn out better than expected and may have also influenced
the relationship after their divorce,
My book, mostly about the many
UPSIDES of divorce, can help you to find the positive sides too that are available
in and after divorce.
Search "upside of divorce" at Amazon Books and see my blogs (all of them, all 341) and see all the reviews. Thanks for a look!
Positive changes you can
make will build your self esteem, confidence and the want to do even
more positives for yourself and your family.
Take a look at my book below if you are interested. My book is all about the upsides.
Brian Daniel
Divorce
is Very Negative but You'll See ALL UPSIDES with Brian's Book,
Yes,There Is An Upside of Divorce, It Can Be Your Second Chance at Life!
My
book "Upside of Divorce" (short title) is available with a discount on
my tibodad@yahoo.com email and just $13 covers the 9 inch X 6 inch plus Postage,Shipping and Handling --You can save over $6 !!
You can search it on Amazon and buy it
there too.
AND, A KINDLE EDITION OF MY BOOK IS NOW AVAILABLE, for just $4.99!
Here is the article, Brian.
How do you hang onto your happiness and joy?” my friend asked me recently.
I smiled as I thought over her question.
Happiness. It is such a simple word, but such a hard commodity to find in this world.
How many times has someone confessed to you, in a moment of naked
honesty, they are just not happy with their lives? Or, who hasn’t heard
of a long-term relationship breaking up because one partner or the other
just was not happy?
Magazines and self-help books claim to have the answer to it. Most of
us have wondered from time to time in our own lives if we are happy.
The older I get, the more I realize happiness is not always due to my
external circumstances, but is more focused on my inner peace. Becoming
a person marked by joy has involved concentrating on a few things in my
life.
My Family.
It really is the cornerstone of who I am and my happiness. There are
occasions when I have taken it for granted and not given it the time and
attention it needed. The business of life and poor priorities can also
pull my attention away from my family. I have had to consistently keep
my focus on what truly counts.
Lee Iococca says, “The only rock that I know that stays steady, the only institution that I know works, is the family.”
They are the biggest blessings of my life.
My marriage.
I often wonder where all the years have gone. There have been some
rough moments and times when we didn’t like each other very much. Times
when marriage and commitment were more like choices and not so much a
feeling. Yet these hard moments have been sprinkled with many happy
times and milestones marking our lasting union.
In Canada, more than four in 10 first-time marriages end in divorce. A
study estimated a startling number of marriages (41 per cent) will
never make it to the 30-year milestone.
We have beaten the odds with our thirty-three years. I still believe
in commitment, love and marriage, and the power it has to bring
happiness in life.
My faith.
Everyone believes in something. My life was marked with unhappiness
until I encountered a faith and belief that shattered my self-reliance
and brought a lasting joy to my life. Faith has been a positive force in
my life, bringing hope and peace in the most difficult of circumstances
and keeping me grounded when everything around me felt like it was
being shaken.
Forgiveness and reconciliation.
There is no perfect relationship. I have had to walk through
relational messiness with family, friends, and even in my marriage.
There have been moments in my life where I allowed disagreements, my own
stubborn character and differences with others to breed
misunderstanding and even separation from the people I truly cared
about.
Without exception, some of the most beautiful moments in my life have
been when I extended grace, love and forgiveness to others, and they
extended the same to me. There is a completion and closure that happens
marked by humility when you embrace the joy of moving on.
Unforgiveness and bitterness can affect a person physically, mentally
and emotionally, twisting their happiness. Forgiveness brings the
ultimate pay-off of restored relationship.
I had a very complicated relationship with my mother. For years it remained unresolved and felt unfinished.
I had the chance to set aside my own hurts the last few months of her
life. It didn’t look like anything I expected it to. But I had the
privilege to get to truly know her, and release any bitterness I had
been holding. I had the honour of walking with her in the last twilight
months, and I was there holding her hand when she moved into the next.
Forgiveness brought an unexpected joy and happiness as I learned to
love her in an unconditional way. An imperfect process, it was still
forgiveness that cleared the way for restoration, and in the end a
happiness I could have never anticipated.
Lastly, I have a personal responsibility for my own happiness.
I wasted time in the past blaming people and circumstances for the
way my life was turning out. My joyful attitude also involved moving on
from my past. It was only when I owned my own unhappiness that real and
lasting joy came into my life.
All these things flashed through my mind as I gazed at my friend.
Family. Marriage. Faith. Forgiveness and Reconciliation. And lastly,
personal responsibility.
Every component has made me able to focus on joy instead of pain and troubles in my life.
“Happiness is a daily choice. And anyone can make it,” I told her.
She seemed satisfied with that answer.
Saturday, August 19, 2017
Tuesday, August 8, 2017
4 reasons why you should never feel ashamed of your divorce --- INSIDER
You will find that you need to drop all negative thoughts before you can look and see the POSITIVE and UPSIDES for your next chapters of life!
ONE SHOULD ALWAYS TRY TO MAKE SOMETHING NEGATIVE INTO SOMETHING POSITIVE. This story turn out better than expected and may have also influenced the relationship after their divorce,
My book, mostly about the many UPSIDES of divorce, can help you to find the positive sides too that are available in and after divorce.
Search "upside of divorce" at Amazon Books and see my blogs (all of them, all 341) and see all the reviews. Thanks for a look!
Positive changes you can make will build your self esteem, confidence and the want to do even more positives for yourself and your family.
Take a look at my book below if you are interested. My book is all about the upsides.
Brian Daniel
Divorce is Very Negative but You'll See ALL UPSIDES with Brian's Book, Yes,There Is An Upside of Divorce, It Can Be Your Second Chance at Life!
My book "Upside of Divorce" (short title) is available with a discount on my tibodad@yahoo.com email and just $13 covers the 9 inch X 6 inch plus Postage,Shipping and Handling --You can save over $6 !!
You can search it on Amazon and buy it there too.
AND, A KINDLE EDITION OF MY BOOK IS NOW AVAILABLE, for just $4.99!
Here is the article, Brian.
Divorce doesn't have to send you into hiding.
- Our lack of discussion around divorce can lead those who get divorced to feel shame about it.
- Experts told INSIDER that those going through a divorce should cut out toxic people.
- Though a high rate of marriages now end in divorce, it's still a
pretty taboo subject surrounded in secrecy and falsehoods. Even the
often spouted divorce rate in the US (50%) isn't exactly true. It's actually a number that depends on your age, when you got married, how long you dated, and other factors.
Because divorce is considered a "shameful" thing in some societies or social circles, it can lead many people to fall into a depressive episode. But if you feel ashamed of your divorce, keep these four things in mind as you move forward and heal:
First of all, divorce is not a failure.
Relationship expert and author April Masini told INSIDER that people are so afraid of talking about divorce — and even more so about getting one themselves — because they are afraid that divorce will be a "failure" and that it will make them somehow inferior to their peers.
"People who are ashamed of divorce feel that way because they think the marriage failing is a sign that they are inferior," she said. "The reality is that we all have failures in life. Some are in relationships.
Some are in jobs. Some are in academics. Some are physical. Some are financial. Some are in health. This is what makes us all different, alike — and human. To deny failure, is to deny humanity.
When you look at divorce that way, you may not feel so ashamed."
Ending a marriage is a sign that your relationship is over — at least romantically. But instead of viewing that as a bad thing, you need to focus on the positive:
You made a choice that was likely best for you, your former partner, and anyone else involved in the decision, such as children.
We often talk about what goes into making a marriage work, but we don't focus on what happens when it ends, - realize they're not alone in this, and take it one day at a time.
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