How did I see the positive side of divorce?

My book has the answer obviously. But I can summarize.

It is not a secret.

It is not a natural thing after some time passes.

It is not difficult and it is not easy.

Others can help you. But you will do the most good, most likely.


Do not dwell on what went wrong.

Do not try to change all that is happened in your divorce.

Do not try to get together unless your partner wants it too.

Do not feel bad, be alone or keep to yourself.


Are you fit and  healthy?  Do you want to be more fit and healthier?

Are you making new friends, spending time with other friends?

Are you keeping busy with the kids, with your family and with your new home and neighborhood?

Are you OK with what you have?

Are you ready to move on?  Yes? Good.


Decide tomorrow to start life anew.


This is what I did to start seeing the many more positive things there are AFTER divorce.
I tried the first three "It is.." All were true. I did help myself more than others and books.
I did all the "Do not..." things, they waste a lot of time and are negative.

But then I began asking myself all the questions above. I could answer all these as "Yes".
I started my move on the very next day...it was all positive stuff and I did more and more of it, from then on.

Sincerely, Brian Daniel.