Friday, December 21, 2012

Holidays Can Be Difficult When Divorced

I know those difficult times and feelings around the holidays when divorced.

Although it was years ago for me, I know still how difficult and long those days can be, especially if you have to spend some time alone.

Well, these difficult times can be lessened with a couple simple plans.

1) Call and see if friends and relatives are OK with your stopping over for an hour or so. They will understand and usually will be happy to see you. By all means, GO!

Perhaps friends or relatives have already asked you over--that's great! By all means, GO!

2) If calling doesn't fit right for you, or if you have been asked to come over and don't feel ready, that's OK. You can miss a holiday or two - I did. But get up and gets some exercise, clean out a closet, do some cleaning, cooking, organizing bills, receipts, get taxes ready? Do something to pass the time and you will fill good about the time well spent.

3) Call friends and family just to wish them happy Holidays and just see what they are doing. Ten minutes of talk will keep you engaged with others and call a few friends or family members, they will spend some time asking about how you are doing. Let them know and  keep things positive, so the talking feels good for both of you.

4) Think about some self improvements that you may want to work on for the next year. Getting a second job, doing some community service, improving your health and fitness, etc. Reading about some of those things will gobble up some hours easily.

You will be just fine with doing only one or two of these plans for the holidays. Try keeping busy as much as you can and the time will pass quickly.

Happy Holidays and Happy Future Times Ahead!

Brian Daniel