My book, mostly about the many UPSIDES of divorce, can help you to find the positive sides too that are available in and after divorce.
Positive changes you can make will build your self esteem, confidence and the want to do even more positives for yourself and your family.
Take a look at my book below if you are interested. My book is all about the upsides.
Brian Daniel
My book "Upside of Divorce" (short title) is available with a discount on my Self-help website above or you can search it on Amazon and buy it there too.
AND, A KINDLE EDITION OF MY BOOK IS NOW AVAILABLE, for just $4.99!
Here is the article.
Loneliness is a real problem in our society according to some experts, and many divorced men and women struggle with this. Author and contributor Heather Voccola speaks from her heart and her personal experience, offering 5 excellent ways to make positive use of your time and overcome loneliness.
Not everyone who gets divorced struggles with being lonely, but a great many Catholics do, and that loneliness compounds the pain of being divorced. In my own experience, the remedy for this is an even tougher struggle; learning how to enjoy my own company. I have to learn to be comfortable in my own skin. Getting comfortable doing things on my own is a major step, a necessary step in my healing process.
I have been thinking the last few days about the recent martyrdom of Fr. Jacques Hamel, and how in contrast to the way he lived his life, I have a tendency to focus on the empty hours that make up so much of my time as a single Catholic. We are reminded in the Gospel of Mark:
“But of that day or that hour no one knows, not even the angels in heaven, nor the Son, but only the Father. Take heed, watch and pray;[a] for you do not know when the time will come (Mark 13: 32-33).
1. Go to Mass
Going to mass is a great way to remind yourself that you belong to a family, your Catholic family in the Church. You are an important part of something big. Weekday masses, especially, tend to be quiet and great for reflection.
If you work a Monday-Friday work week, try to add a Saturday morning Mass to your weekly schedule. It will give you another opportunity to worship and also to make additional connections at your parish. If you work on weekends, choose a day during the week to add an additional Mass to your schedule. Try to keep the same schedule weekly so you can begin to see some of the same people
I strongly recommend that everyone devote one hour of their week to Eucharistic Adoration. It will change your life! But beyond that – if you find yourself with a day suddenly devoid of plans, take some time to stop in a say “hello” to Jesus. He is always there waiting for us! And there is nothing better we can do with our time than to pray – and there is so much to pray for.
I say a special prayer after every communion specifically for our priests. My work over the years has brought me into contact with many seminarians and amazingly holy priests. I pray daily for our priests – the priesthood as a whole and also a litany of names of priests that I know personally. Given the circumstances of Fr. Hamel’s martyrdom we need to pray for our priests even more!
Offering prayers for our priests is one of the best ways to help them stay strong in the face of adversity and criticism. Making it a daily practice can make a huge difference for them.
One of the best ways to get outside of ourselves is to give of ourselves to others. If you have a fairly reliable schedule, take some time to pray about organized volunteer opportunities that God may be calling you to. But remember, these opportunities don’t always look like working in a soup kitchen or crisis pregnancy center. Maybe you are called to provide some free babysitting for that family at your parish or help your elderly neighbor with grocery shopping or yard work. Many people shy away from Volunteer work because their schedule is too erratic. If you pray, God will show you many opportunities you will have to make a difference.
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